Last night I attended an AMAZING Charity Art Benefit for the South Carolina-Coalition for Overcoming Eating Disorders (SC-COED) in Charleston with to present EmBODYment of Self at beautiful gallery 4th Wall. For those who could not attend here is a glimpse of a magical night where this #ClosetArtist put her drawing out there with other Body Positivity Believers in hopes to empower women and men to join part of a community thats working to CHANGE how we feel about out bodies & how it impacts us in a Barbie doll world!
On a personal note, being with the amazing people that hosted the emBODYment of Self event thank you for helping inspire me to change the world. Thank you for helping me raise awareness about the #AnnaWestinACT2015 and leave the petition and my flyers so others can take action to and together we can fundamentally shift the #bodyshamingculture we currently live in, click here to send an email to your legislator in 1 minute! This event and artists that contributed their pieces had all been moved in some way to bare the soul and donate some art for the higher good.
I entered a piece, my Inner shame gremlin said, “No it’s not good enough, you can draw that hand better!” Here is my thought, I have decided to live from my value. What I have identified as my value is #advocacy #creativity #beingvulnerable and #radicallyauthentic. So yes, my paper had a smudge on it, and the girls left hand was a little bigger than the right hand.
I have decided to not allow my insecurities hold me back. Don’t allow the, voice “The drawing is not perfect, and looks silly” keep you from letting your light shine and spreading your passion.
So how do you put yourself out there and manage the fear when you are trying to fly? Rather than let fear trigger you to get paralyzed, instead let FEAR be, just an emotion knocking frantically at your door. You need to calmly gather the facts so you know the skill to get you through the moment, take a deep breath. Now when I notice fear, it triggers me to practice the Opposite Action skill, to regulate my emotions. Our natural reaction to fear is to run away, the OPPOSITE ACTION skill is just that, instead of acting on your urge when feeling #Fear act opposite, approach the situation over and over. The fear will reduce I am so sure of this I have a tattoo of it #loveoverfear. I was scared to write a blog, paint a drawing, and now look at me spreading my wings and having the courage to truely believe the power of one person to start a movement. Thank you Charleston and emBODYment of Self, for helping us all connect and stand together to shed light on body image and promote #bodylove a special thanks to local clinicians: Dr. Jill Ilagan, Phd; Mary Krainin, LISW; Courtney Armstrong , RD; Meredith D’Agostino, DNP, Sarah Sharnoff Chesley, LMFT; Laura Davis, RD; & Patricia Russel.. To receive monthly emails regarding events working to change the Body Shame culture and subscribe to my monthly newsletter.
Kelly Toney, LMSW