How could a horrible body shaming voice, I call ED, be a gift? For me it’s a gift because I can now help so many others who have a loud inner critic too. I understand this hateful language fluently and want to be a bridge and translator to loved ones and professionals when when you don’t know what to say. I am grateful I have been through the dark days full of self hate and loathing my body fighting for recovery, because it has made me stronger. I now carry the lantern and can help you out of the darkness as well.
Don’t get me wrong I still stumble and have fear, but I will never be caught in the tornado again. I know this because I am prepared. I have support, I talk about it, I know transitions are hard for me and can be triggering so I am extra gentle with myself during those times.
The first step into the light is acknowledging the elephant in the room, and telling that body shame voice it is not welcome. So right now, come up with it’s name, and commit to yourself to not listen to it anymore. You no longer have to buy into the hype, and you are just as worthy of love and belonging now as when you were a baby in your mothers womb. Dr. Brene Brown’s talks about her research in cultivating shame resilience and quieting the inner critic, she calls gremlins to live with authentic and vulnerability. Check out her TED talk, I love this video so much so that I show it to many of my clients who struggle with these issues.
So what have you learned about yourself as a result of the body shaming voice? What are you afraid of when thoughts about embracing body positivity and loving your amazing flawed self? What if you took care of yourself, like you take care of others?